The sleep saga

Well, Finley's sleep issue has not resolved itself so we have decided to be proactive about it. I spent all day yesterday reading up on various sleep training approaches. Basically there is the CIO (cry it out) method and the AP (attachment parenting method-always respond to babies cries). Brian and I sat down last evening as if we were at a business meeting and went over all the current sleep research. We decided to take a middle of the road approach. Because we know how things can change during sleep deprivation we outlined our strategy in specific detail.

1) I am not allowed to be present-she can't hear me, smell me, or see me (yay for me, bad news for brian)

2) Brian will let her cry for 5 minutes before responding to her

3) He will give her the binki and blanket to soothe her

4) He will pat her bum

5) He will pick her up and bounce/sway her

6) When crying has totaled 30 minutes he will give her a bottle and try again at the next wakening

Everything went according to plan the first time she woke up. She cried. I covered my ears with two pillows and the comforter. I cried. He ended up having to feed her. No big deal. We knew this was going to take time. When she woke up the second time, the plan went out the window. I heard her cry and then I heard Brian feeding her. What happened to steps 1-5? All the sudden he began quoting AP research! Was he looking for the easy way out or did her crying really get to him? Maybe both, but I don't think he's a tough as he thinks he is!